Phenomenal First Impressions - How to have instant confidence
when attending job interviews
By Peter Murphy
In this report we will look at NLP and at one of
the fundamental tools of NLP which will prove extremely powerful
in helping you to have more confidence, enthusiasm and fun when
meeting people. And after you apply what you learn in this report
you will find it easy to make a great first impression whenever
you want to despite your interview nerves.
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is the study
of how people represent experiences, real or imagined, to themselves
internally, and the corresponding effect on how the nervous system
functions. Dr.Richard Bandler, a Gestalt therapist, and John Grinder,
a respected linguist, jointly developed NLP in the 1970s. These
two innovative researchers studied highly successful therapists
such as Dr. Milton Erikson, the gifted hypnotherapist, and Virginia
Satir, an exceptional family therapist, and their findings led
them to develop a set of strategies known as NLP. Today these
NLP strategies are used around the world by therapists, business
executives and leading sports people to cope with pressure and
to perform at their best when they need to.
NLP is all about producing results and often very
quickly. If NLP has an attitude then that attitude is all about
producing measurable results that enhance the quality of peoples
lives without a lengthy and painful journey into the past. The
application of NLP is directed towards quickly attaining a desired
outcome i.e. what do you want and how soon can you have it?
In this report we are going to learn all about an
easy to learn NLP technique called anchoring, a simple way to
allow you to change any unwanted feeling to a resourceful feeling
in a matter of moments. When you create an anchor you set up a
stimulus response pattern so that you can feel the way you want
to, whenever you need to.
Imagine what it would be like if you could, in a
moment, go from feeling anxious to feeling decisive and absolutely
capable right in the middle of a stressful interview when all
eyes are on you. Would that ability make a big difference to your
ability to make a good impression? Could you now improve your
odds of getting the job you deserve?
I will now outline how to establish an anchor. Each
step is concise and must be followed exactly to ensure you create
a powerful anchor.
Steps to creating a powerful anchor:
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Identify the emotional state you want e.g. confidence,
calmness, enthusiasm. This step is crucial. You need to define
very specifically how you want to feel. Choosing to feel powerful
and enthusiastic is specific and something you can work towards.
Saying that you do not want to feel anxious or tense is not
much help because you still do not know what you do want. Select
a desired state i.e. specifically how you want to feel.
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Recall a particular time in your life when you
felt the desired state. Pick a powerful example. It is worthwhile
looking back at your memories to relive times when you had this
desired state, the context is unimportant, what is important
is recalling a few particularly strong experiences and then
selecting the most powerful one.
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Create state: in your imagination put yourself
back into that experience as if it is happening in this moment.
Notice what you see, hear what you were hearing, feel what you
were feeling in the moment. Allow it to be as if it is happening.
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Establish anchors: notice how the state builds
to a peak and then declines. Now repeat step 3 only this time
just as the state is about to peak, make a unique gesture with
the fingers of one hand as you say a word or phrase to evoke
the feeling, while also visualizing an image that represents
the state. e.g. clench your left fist as you softly say to yourself
ICE COOL...while you picture someone who represents calmness
for you e.g. a Buddhist monk. Hold the state for a few moments,
release the anchors and then break state (change your emotional
state by thinking about something completely different and by
changing your posture).
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Repeat step 4 five times so as to build a resilient
anchor. This repetition is crucial.
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Test the anchors by firing them (make the unique
gesture, say the word/phrase, picture the person that represents
calmness) and check that you do experience the desired state.
You will know that you have successfully anchored the resource
when you can access the desired state by firing any one of the
component anchors i.e. the visual (picture), auditory (word/phrase)
or feeling (gesture) anchor. You ought to feel the anchored
state within 10-15 seconds.
If the feeling is not satisfactory then choose a
different experience that more precisely gives you the appropriate
state.
To make sure your anchoring works as well as possible
you need to learn about the secrets to powerful anchoring. There
are six distinctions that will supercharge your anchoring skills.
The six secrets to powerful anchoring:
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Only anchor an intense state i.e. a strongly
felt experience.
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Pick an experience that is pure and not mixed
with other feelings.
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Use unique anchors so the state is only accessed
at will.
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Timing is crucial, fire the anchors before the
peak and release before the peak declines.
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Spend time at anchoring to become skillful.
Allow 20-30 minutes per session.
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Reinforce periodically to keep the anchor strong
since the intensity may fade over time.
Using anchors can make a massive difference to your
ability to deal with people. Instead of hoping you will feel capable
when you next need to express yourself, just fire your anchor
and in a moment feel the way you want to feel.
Maybe you want to feel relaxed in that crucial job
interview, fire your relaxation anchor and you have it in an instant.
Perhaps you want to feel powerful, then fire your power anchor
and in a few moments you can go from feeling like you are under
surveillance to feeling in charge of your feelings and your world.
You can also stack anchors. This means that you
would select your desired state and anchor it as above and then
repeat the process with a different state but using the same gesture,
word and picture. For example you could anchor confidence to a
clenched left fist, say POWER and picture James Bond. Then you
could start the anchoring process again to anchor a time when
you had a huge grin on your face to the same clenched left fist,
POWER and the image of James Bond. Before you know it you will
be able to feel powerful AND happy in a moment. How about stacking
enthusiasm too?
This is how I do so well in business when meeting
people for the first time. I always have a powerful anchor ready
whenever I need it. Just before a key meeting I will fire the
anchor to ensure a great first impression, then during the meeting
I will fire the anchor again whenever I feel my state slip.
Will people spot you firing the anchor? No! The
secret is to be subtle. You could say the word or phrase to yourself
quietly in your head or just imagine that image that evokes the
desired state. I like to anchor using subtle gestures such as
bringing three fingertips together with a unique pressure. This
can be done without anyone noticing.
Anchoring is a life skill that will work for whatever
you apply it to. It has relevance for work, family life and relationships.
Let's say your spouse has a special talent for getting on your
nerves, just fire your calmness anchor and instantly you will
have freedom from the torment!
Take some time as well to review your top goals
and values. Then decide which emotional states you need to achieve
these goals. Create a list of these feelings and schedule 20-30
minutes to set up an anchor for each one. Make notes to remind
yourself which triggers you will use for each state.
Although this may seem unusual at first, with practice
this will become second nature. Approach it from the point of
view of having fun learning something different and you will soon
become skilled at anchoring. When I first learned about anchoring
I made a point of anchoring three resourceful states a day. You
would be amazed at how quickly your life expands when you are
feeling phenomenal!
Peter Murphy is a peak performance consultant.
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